Step 8: “Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

Step 8: “Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

The journey of recovery is as much about healing relationships as it is about healing oneself. Step 8 of Alcoholics Anonymous asks us to take a deep breath and confront the past—specifically, the people we've hurt along the way. It’s a step that calls for honesty, humility, and a willingness to make things right. But how do we approach such a daunting task?

"Do not repay anyone evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all." —Romans 12:17 (ESV)

This verse beautifully captures the essence of Step 8. It challenges us to rise above the instinct to justify or ignore the harm we've caused. Instead, we’re called to do what is honorable, not just in our own eyes, but in the eyes of others—those we’ve wronged.

Willingness: The Heart of the Matter

At its core, Step 8 is not about action but about attitude. It’s about cultivating a sincere willingness to face those we've hurt and to take responsibility for our actions. The list we make is more than a mere inventory; it's a reflection of our commitment to growth and change.

The Bible offers a profound insight into this willingness. In Matthew 5:23-24 (ESV), Jesus teaches, "So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."

This passage emphasizes the importance of reconciliation before even worship. It shows us that willingness to make amends is not just a suggestion but a spiritual imperative. Before we can fully embrace our recovery and spiritual growth, we must be willing to confront and repair the damage we've done.

Finding Courage Through Christ

The fear of rejection, anger, or the unknown can make Step 8 seem insurmountable. But we are not alone in this process. Philippians 4:13 (ESV) reminds us, "I can do all things through him who strengthens me."

This verse is a powerful reminder that Christ equips us with the strength and courage needed to face our past. When we lean on Him, we find the resolve to do what is right, even when it's difficult.

Prayer for Step 8:

Heavenly Father, give me the strength to face those I have hurt with humility and grace. Help me to be willing to make amends, not just for my sake, but to honor the relationships that have been strained. Guide me in this process, so that I may do what is honorable in Your sight and in the sight of those I seek to reconcile with. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

As you walk through Step 8, remember that this is not just about repairing the past, but about building a future rooted in honesty, love, and reconciliation. By becoming willing to make amends, we open the door to true freedom—freedom from guilt, shame, and the burden of unresolved conflict. With Christ by our side, we can take this step with confidence and hope.